Sunday, June 19, 2016

Father's Day 2016, and the Unsung Heroes of Family

By Douglas V. Gibbs
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Hebrews 12:7
Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as sons. For what son is not disciplined by his father?

Deuteronomy 1:29-31
Then I said to you, "Do not be terrified; do not be afraid of them. The LORD your God, who is going before you, will fight for you, as he did for you in Egypt, before your very eyes, and in the desert. There you saw how the LORD your God carried you, as a father carries his son, all the way you went until you reached this place."

It has always struck me that while fathers are so important to the stability of the family unit, and that the family unit is an important building block of our free society, in this feminized culture where the hard left feminists are running around unchecked and amok, the importance of fatherhood has been diminished, and even scoffed at.  It's gone way beyond the story about the football player that makes it to the NFL.  Dad taught the boy how to throw, catch, and tackle.  Dad spent hours each day after working a full day on his job to teach his son the fundamentals, to toughen the boy up, and to attend the games to see his progeny play in a litany of grueling games.  Then, on that professional football field in a stadium full of shouting fans, a television camera moves into position, does a close-up of the boy that became a man with his football helmet sitting next to him on the bench, and with grass stains ground into his knees.  The player looks up, the pride of father's hard work and encouragement.  The young man waves to the camera, and says, "Hi Mom."

In today's society, there is likely no father hanging around for the son to wave to.  Dad has been told he no longer matters, and he has been replaced by the welfare state.  Kids today have the same hang-ups we did, and perhaps more, but instead of sucking it up and growing up, they have become snowflakes who run frightened to safe-zones, blaming their Dad for them being so screwed up.

Yet, amidst all of this madness, and somewhere deep inside this culture where divorce is at an all-time high and fathers are throwing their hands up and paying child-support while perhaps seeing their kids a couple times per month, there are a few that have stuck it out.  These men fought the good fight, worked it out with their wives when times were tough, and did what they could to serve as a good example for their children to follow.  While society is trying to convince men to be a second mom, the reality is that Dad is a man-maker, and a woman-maker.  He's there for the tough lessons, and the tough discipline.  He's there to show resolve and patience, hard work and self-reliance, personal responsibility and how to do the right thing.  Dad's lessons are the hard lessons of life, the ones that takes a man to reveal toughness.

While Mom is concerned about the fat lip from a fight in the schoolyard, Dad asks, "Did ya win?"  While Mom has been the one to encourage that everyone gets a participation trophy, it's Dad that yanks the engraved metal slice off the base and grabs a marker to write the word "Champion" or "Winner."  I am not putting down Mom.  She has a vital role.  She is there to mother her children.  But it is Dad's job to father them.

So, thank you to all of those fathers, dads, and men who didn't have to step into the role but did.  Thanks for working hard, demanding the best from us, and teach us to reach deep down to find in our gut the strength to accomplish whatever it was you were demanding we finished.  Thanks for teaching us to finish the race, shake hands with the opponent, to be proud when we won, and to hold our head up when we lost.  Thanks for the lessons on how to trouble-shoot, on how to get up early, and work hard late.  Thanks for teaching us to take our hats off during the National Anthem, and explaining to us the importance of fighting for freedom.  Thanks for serving in the military and fighting in wars, or being those men who stood up in support of our veterans even though you yourself did not make that choice to wear a uniform.  Thank you for saluting the flag, and for revering the Constitution.  Your lessons were the ones that stuck most.

Thanks Mom for the nurturing.  Thanks Dad for the toughening.

Happy Father's Day, 2016.

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