Matt Damon May Have a Point about Sexual Harassment

Headshot I used for auditions
during my brief foray into the
realm of the beautiful people
of the entertainment industry.

By Douglas V. Gibbs

Author, Speaker, Instructor, Radio Host

I spent a little over a year in Hollywood, mostly on the cutting room floor.  I put myself out there for extra work, and auditioned for commercials.  Callbacks were rare and far between, but I was in the industry just enough to catch a whiff of what really goes on.  I noticed four things during that short stint in the industry, 

1.  At 5'10" I was among the tallest men on the set.

2.  The buffet snack tables were awesome, yet few actors are overweight.

3.  Homosexuals were everywhere, and accepted as a normal part of the industry.

4.  Sexual innuendo, dirty jokes and slaps on the hindquarters were more prevalent than what you would experience if you hung out with a bunch of middle-school boys.

Sleeping one's way to the top, or just sleeping around because it was the thing to do, were not cliches.  Every moment of every day was sexually charged.  In short, these people are not just horn-dogs, but nasty ones, at that.

In short, what would be considered sexual harassment in the normal world is just a part of the culture in Hollywood, and the surrounding industries.

Have you ever seen the latest roasts of Hollywood celebrities?  They are filled with sexist, racist, homosexual and overall obscene jokes, and the kids on the stage laugh and celebrate the cunning nature of the attacks.  It's fun to watch them, because at a roast the jokes peek around closed doors, and then throw upon their robe.

Everybody in the industry laughs at the quips about the sexual games that go on.  They giggle in the corner, knowing that the big stars have boinked just about everyone around them.  It's an inside joke that they are able to snicker about because it's like a big secret. . . a pinky swear secret.  "We know, they don't, hee hee hee."

Sexcapades, in the office, and around the corner, is a normal thing, and isn't ever exposed unless it can be used as a weapon.  But, it's a nuclear weapon that could destroy them all, so they've always been very careful about it - sort of like politicians are when it comes to corruption.

Trump's conversation with Howard Stern about grabbing a lady's private area was horrendous, the elite exclaimed, watching the attacks against Trump unfold in horror as they fondled each other behind their zippers.  "Roy Moore is a sex pervert, child molester, and pedophile" they screamed as the media placed images of 71-year-old Moore (who was 32, and a registered Democrat, at the time of the alleged sexual improprieties) next to the teenage pictures of his alleged victims.  The elite were disgusted on the surface, though many of them in their minds laughed at the ages of the alleged victims at the time of the crime, well knowing that they had done girls much younger than that - and then some of them probably pleasured themselves while imagining the Republican Candidate doing the deed.

We have been horrified by something we knew was already there.  

I am not condoning anything.  I am just saying that our horror, while justified, is false because the sick nature of Hollywood, and the sexually explicit nature of the other surrounding entertainment industries, is not so surprising when you really think about it.  It's like being shocked when word gets out the star quarterback has not only been doing the head cheerleader, but half of the pep squad, as well.

We know they do these things, and then we pretend not to hear the whispers.  But now, it's out in the open, and the kids caught in the act are pointing fingers as they yell, "We didn't do it."

Like the best joke, we are also entertained by what is going on because we know there was a vein of truth running through all of the rumors all along.

The beautiful people swear they had no prior knowledge about what was going on.  All of the jokes were simply jokes, and all of the rumors were never believed.

Hollywood has proven to be full of good Democrats using good Democrat Party tactics.  Deny, deny, deny.

They knew, and they enjoyed it. They just hoped that word would never get out.

Then, as the grope-fest accusations are swinging by on vines by the dozens, from around the corner, comes Matt Damon, the guy who owes his rise to fame to Harvey Weinstein, the pervert that broke all of this wide open.  Damon's been around the block.  He knows what has been going on.  He's a staunch leftist and was a valued member of the team, until he tried to make some sense, and be a little honest.

Now, because he dared to speak up, they are attempting to blacklist him, beginning with a petition to have his cameo cut out of Ocean's 8.

In an interview, Matt Damon tried to be as reasonable as possible.  "I think we’re in this watershed moment. I think it’s great. I think it’s wonderful that women are feeling empowered to tell their stories, and it’s totally necessary … I do believe that there’s a spectrum of behavior, right? And we’re going to have to figure — you know, there’s a difference between, you know, patting someone on the butt and rape or child molestation, right? Both of those behaviors need to be confronted and eradicated without question, but they shouldn’t be conflated, right? ... we live in this culture of outrage and injury, and, you know, that we’re going to have to correct enough to kind of go, 'Wait a minute. None of us came here perfect.' You know what I mean? … The Louis C.K. thing, I don’t know all the details. I don’t do deep dives on this, but I did see his statement, which kind of, which [was] arresting to me. When he came out and said, 'I did this. I did these things. These women are all telling the truth.' And I just remember thinking, 'Well, that’s the sign of somebody who — well, we can work with that' … Like, when I’m raising my kids, this constant personal responsibility is as important as anything else they learn before they go off in the world.  And the fear for me is that right now, we’re in this moment where at the moment — and I hope it doesn’t stay this way — the clearer signal to men and to younger people is, deny it. Because if you take responsibility for what you did, your life’s going to get ruined … I mean, look, as I said, all of that behavior needs to be confronted, but there is a continuum. And on this end of the continuum where you have rape and child molestation or whatever, you know, that’s prison. Right? And that’s what needs to happen. OK? And then we can talk about rehabilitation and everything else. That’s criminal behavior, and it needs to be dealt with that way. The other stuff is just kind of shameful and gross, and I just think … I don’t know Louis C.K.. I’ve never met him. I’m a fan of his, but I don’t imagine he’s going to do those things again. You know what I mean? I imagine the price that he’s paid at this point is so beyond anything that he — I just think that we have to kind of start delineating between what these behaviors are."

Does he have a point?

Here's what I mean.

The sensitivity is rising.  It's actually hurtful for the pet agendas of the liberal left.  How can a feminist rise in any industry if a guy she needs to impress is too afraid to talk to her because even something as innocuous as "You look nice" could be viewed as sexual harassment?  Is a pat on the butt okay in one circumstance, but not in another?  Is lunch with a colleague of the opposite sex an innocent meal, or step one to working towards getting into their pants?  Where is the fine line?  Has the line been moved?  Erased?  Redrawn?

The definitions are changing so rapidly that men are afraid to even approach a woman.

The sexual drive is powerful.  God gave it to us for a reason.  He wanted us to be fruitful and multiply.  The urge to multiply is a strong one.

Young men and women make decisions daily based on their sexual desires.  When we get older we learn to harness it a little better, but even at our older ages we often make decisions based on our genital's desires when our brain says otherwise.  It's a part of human nature.

Again, I am not condoning anything.  I am simply recognizing the powerful forces within us, and that drives us.

How can we delineate what the boundaries are between acceptability and non-acceptability if everything is considered dangerous?

Unfortunately, the liberal left knuckleheads like Matt Damon don't seem to realize they brought this all upon themselves.  They blame masculinity for the crimes.  Feminism has proclaimed their aim is to end the patriarchal society, and that to do so men must be demasculinized.  Now, they are getting what they want.  The world is full of metro-sexuals and snowflakes too afraid to act like men, and the few men who are remaining are being accused of sexual impropriety because in the mind of the feminists all men are potential rapists and child molesters.  One by one they are being picked off.  But, how can society exist without them?

Gropers and sex perverts like Harvey Weinstein do not represent the whole of men.  The liberal left swears up and down that the Islamic terrorist who blows himself up in a crowd of people does not represent the whole of Islam, so why can't the liberal left apply the same thinking to men in the face of all of the sex perverts being exposed?

Besides, we need men to be masculine.  We don't want to turn men into a bunch of sensitive wussies.  Would we have the courage to accomplish much of what we accomplish without masculinity? How about the role of a man as a protector?  Do we not desire strong fathers, brothers, friends and leaders?

Masculinity is not sexual power over women.  In fact, it is the opposite.  It is a protective force that should be harnessed and empowered.

Real men are not sexual predators.  Real men do not view women as a territory to conquer.  Real men view women with a love that rivals what God gives to His creations.  Real men view women with respect, and real men desire to protect them and help them accomplish what they want, because he cares about who they are.

Real men are strong, but compassionate. He exemplifies true masculinity by caring for his family, protecting the weak, and acting as a gentleman when the occasion calls for it.

True, there are specimens among the male sex who seek sexual domination.  They exist because they don't understand what their power of manhood was truly created for.  Those fiendish kinds of men, however, are not the norm nor are they representatives of masculinity.

Real men open doors, compliment women for their appearance, and rise from their chair when a woman has joined the group and is about to be seated.  It's the gentlemanly thing to do.  We sometimes put coats over the shoulders of our female companions for no other reason than that we realize that they are cold.  We help them to their door, and open the door for them, not because we fear they may not be able to do it, or because we think we should dominate, but because our masculinity tells us that we are supposed to be protectors and guardians as well as providers and comforters.  The reality is, there is a difference between the sexes, and there is a clear line between being a gentleman and being a sex pervert.

Again, sometimes that line is slightly blurred, but if we erase it with the madness going on, and as Damon suggested is going on, fail to delineate between what is appropriate and isn't because we are like sharks in a feeding frenzy, civilization will be in trouble because the protectors of that society will be in bondage, too afraid to be a protector for fear of being accused of being too masculine, and too afraid of being a comforter for fear of being accused of being too intrusive.

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